This book is about the other moments.
Before I became a mother, failing at something did not shake my fundamental belief in my capabilities as a human being. But now that I am the mother of three children under the age of seven, I have one overriding daily thought: I suck at this.
What kind of mother feeds her kids dinosaur chicken nuggets? Three times a week? What kind of mother lets hand washing after using the toilet slide, as long as it was just Number One? And then I wonder: When did I get like this? Why do I doubt my parenting abilities, day after day? Why does motherhood, a job as old as Eve, have me teetering daily on the edge of sanity?
With each new stage of motherhood, I tell myself I will never again be suckered by the question, “Don’t you want what’s best for your children?” And yet, time after time, I am. Sometimes, I am right to obsess. Other times, the record will show, it has been distinctly counterproductive.
I’m working on it . . .
My Thoughts: I absolutely love this book! LOVE it! Every mother who has ever felt like she has fell short of her own ideals for herself as a mother NEEDS to read this! It is hilarious, had me smiling and shaking my head in agreement in so many places. There were many, many parts of this that I could completely relate to. From her thoughts on modesty after having given birth and breastfeeding to her description of her husband’s ability to make big decisions, there was something in each chapter that could have come straight out of my own life!
And then there’s the issues with her first child. Who after a couple of weeks becomes quite the screamer. Um, yeah, my oldest was the same way. Except there was no medical explanation for it. No reflux, no colic. Just something she had to outgrow. But, as the author discusses the difficulty of having such a screamer, I could relate on every single level. Leaving the house with her was a scary prospect. People would tell me she must be hungry, when I knew that wasn’t it. Stuff like that. (This book TOTALLY brought back so many memories! LOL)
Not only are there plenty of laugh-worthy anecdotes, but there are also moments of reflection and even insights that made me rethink some of my own approaches to things. Approaches that I often consider my own failings. Big one: yelling. Like the author, I have decided to work at not yelling so much – saving that for the big things so it doesn’t lose its effectiveness when it’s most needed. (Like, when the kids are about to run out into a busy street …)
Anyway, I would HIGHLY recommend this for any mother who occasionally wonders about herself. Wondering how she got so far away from where she thought she’d be – who she thought she’d be. This will make you laugh, smile, and realize that you are most definitely not alone.
Favorite Quotes: There are so many quotes from this book that I had marked that it’s hard for me to pick! LOL But, here are a couple that resonated with me in one way or another.
As a mother, there are only two things of which I am ever certain: (1) I have somehow eluded detection and have been given three children for whose care I am remarkably unqualified, and (2) every decision I make for these small, helpless beings is of the utmost, life-altering importance. ~ page 8
There is a certain evil muscle memory that occurs in the body of a woman who has been pregnant before. “Oh, this again,” your abs say, and surrender immediately, rather than fighting the good fight for twenty-five weeks like they did the first time around. ~ page 33
If you were to piece together our family’s story based on our photos, you would think that our three children had raised themselves and some scary sweaty fat lady stopped by once or twice a year. ~ page 88
The things a mother does well are always invisible compared to the things she does badly. ~ page 165
My Rating: 5 stars
Source: Received as part of a blog tour promotion on TLC Book Tours.
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About the Author: Amy Wilson is the author and performer of the one-woman show Mother Load, which started off-Broadway, and has been touring the country ever since. She made her Broadway debut in the Tony-Award-winning play The Last Night of Ballyhoo, and has appeared in dozens of other plays in New York City. On television, she was a series regular on Norm and Daddio, and appeared on Felicity, Ed, Law and Order: Criminal Intent, Deadline, Boston Common, and All My Children. Her film credits include Kinsey, Kissing Jessica Stein, Keeping the Faith, and Ira and Abby.
Her writing appears regularly in Babytalk magazine, on parenting.com, and on CNN.com’s “Living” page. Her favorite productions are her three young children, whom she raises with her husband in New York City.
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Tour Info: For the main page for this blog tour, including more reviews of this book on other blogs, visit TLC’s post.
Challenges: Counts for 100 Books in a Year Reading Challenge 2011.
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